How to Say No to Sexting Pressure When You are a Teen
One of the topics that is commonly brought up by my teen clients in teen therapy is sexting. Sexting is when someone sends another person nude or nearly nude pictures of themselves via cell phone. Research has shown that as many as one in three teens (that is 33%) engage in some form of sexting. This of course raises big concerns for parents of teens. It is extremely important for parents to have an open and direct conversation with their teens about sexting and the dangerous consequences of it. Below is a worksheet that I have used with my clients in teen therapy. I have my teen clients complete it in order to prepare themselves for when they are asked to engage in sexting.
TEEN WORKSHEET: HOW TO SAY NO TO SEXTING
One of the best ways to remove the pressure you will feel when someone asks you to sext is to be prepared with a response.
3 strategies you can use:
1) Be funny and use humor
2) Be firm
3) Turn it around on the asker
To get yourself thinking about what your responses could be here are a few suggestions:
- You want a naked pic? Sure, but only once so never ask again. – Then send a pic of a stuffed animal bear butt or something similar. Send a baby pic of yourself wearing a diaper (or of a random baby).
- I heard your question, did you hear my answer?
- Why don’t YOU send me your pic, then I’ll share it with all my friends and let it go viral. Let’s see what it does to YOUR reputation first.
- Sorry I can’t take pics of myself, not since the whole exorcism thing.
- My parents check my text messages; you want my dad/mom reading your request? I don’t.
- I won’t send you any pics of me but here is a number of a friend of mine who will. Her number is 911.
- Let me save us some time, the next 2,000 times you ask, the answer will still be no.
Now it’s your turn. Try to come up with your own responses. After you try that download the app called “Send this Instead” which is a great resource about resisting sexting. Most importantly remember to always be open and honest with your parents. Even though parents can seem annoying sometimes they are your #1 supporters and want what’s best for you.
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Roberta Alves is a therapist and counselor at the Essence of Healing Counseling with an office located in downtown Ft. Lauderdale. She is a Certified Anxiety Specialist and uses a scientific and evidence based type of therapy called Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Research has shown that Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is proven to be extremely effective in treating anxiety. Roberta is truly passionate about the work she does and loves serving her adults and teen clients in Ft. Lauderdale and the surrounding South Florida areas. If you want to learn the proven techniques to overcome your anxiety call 954-393-2930 to schedule an appointment today.
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