“Love knows no boundaries.” At least that’s what they say, right? But what happens when the boundaries stretch across miles and oceans? What happens when we start to doubt the strength of a relationship?
Is he seeing other people?
Is she not as into me as I am into her?
Maybe I should just end it. These long-distance relationships never work out, right?
In our internet-dominated, phone-obsessed, interconnected world, long-distance relationships have become increasingly common. But common doesn’t mean that anxieties and thoughts like this don’t happen all the time. In this blog, let’s dive into the worries, stresses, and anxieties that long-distance couples experience, explore some of the challenges they face, and provide tips on navigating the storm of emotions that might come with being in a long-distance relationship.
The Tug of Distance
Long-distance relationships, like any relationship, are built on love and commitment. Unlike relationships where partners live close to each other, those in a long-distance relationship have to deal with the stresses of physical separation. That distance can leave you constantly aching for your partner, triggering feelings of loneliness, sadness, and frustration. These feelings inevitably become anxieties, making our minds reel as we worry about the what-ifs, hows, and whys.
The first thing we can do to alleviate these worries is to just acknowledge that we have them! And guess what? Again, it’s totally normal! Secondly, we need to communicate our emotions with our partners. Strong relationships are built on sharing our vulnerabilities and letting each other know what we’re thinking (instead of trying to read each other’s minds, which, newsflash, doesn’t work.)
The Tug of Distance
Long-distance relationships, like any relationship, are built on love and commitment. Unlike relationships where partners live close to each other, those in a long-distance relationship have to deal with the stresses of physical separation. That distance can leave you constantly aching for your partner, triggering feelings of loneliness, sadness, and frustration. These feelings inevitably become anxieties, making our minds reel as we worry about the what-ifs, hows, and whys.
The first thing we can do to alleviate these worries is to just acknowledge that we have them! And guess what? Again, it’s totally normal! Secondly, we need to communicate our emotions with our partners. Strong relationships are built on sharing our vulnerabilities and letting each other know what we’re thinking (instead of trying to read each other’s minds, which, newsflash, doesn’t work.)
Crossed Wires
It’s worth repeating, so here we go: communication is essential in any relationship. In long-distance scenarios, it’s critical. The lack of face-to-face interaction can create uncertainties, misunderstandings, and misinterpretations. Time zone differences and busy schedules can also make finding the right time to connect a challenge, if not downright impossible sometimes.
To start overcoming these anxieties, try to establish a consistent communication routine. For example, agree that every Thursday night you share a quick FaceTime to, you know, actually see each other’s faces! Be clear and honest in your talks, and use this time to share those anxieties that you might be having. You’ll notice that the more often you connect, the less often those anxieties will nag you.
Trust Issues
Trust is another pillar of a healthy relationship, and it’s absolutely paramount in a long-distance setting. Being physically distant can lead to doubts and insecurities, which are fueled by those nasty fears of infidelity or growing apart.
Once again, making sure you remain open and transparent about your expectations, concerns, and boundaries is vital. Have those honest conversations and trust your partner (guess what, they’re in a relationship with you for a reason!) More often than not, those negative feelings you’re having about your partner are just a reflection of what you’re feeling about yourself. So be kind to yourself and try to remain in the present.
The Fear of Missing Out (FOMO)
One of the biggest anxieties people experience in a long-distance relationship is the fear of missing out on shared experiences. Birthdays, anniversaries, and special occasions can be emotionally challenging (to say the least) when you can’t physically be with your loved one.
Combat this FOMO by finding creative ways to celebrate together virtually, plan future visits or trips, and remind yourself of the enduring bond you share.
How to Build Yourself Up to Survive (and Enjoy) Long-Distance Relationship Anxieties
So we know being in a long-distance relationship can be emotionally challenging, but that doesn’t mean it can’t also serve us. Being in a long-distance relationship gives us the chance to personally grow and cultivate independence. We have the freedom to pursue our own goals, hobbies, and interests. When we build a fulfilling life outside of our long-distance relationships, we not only feel better but also strengthen our relationship by improving our sense of self-worth and fulfillment.
We can also empower ourselves and our relationships by sharing goals with each other. Talk about your long-term plans, and celebrate milestones. This helps both partners feel invested and motivated, as each has something to look forward to and work towards.
Anxiety Therapy for Long-Distance Relationships in Florida
Long-distance relationships may test your patience and emotional resilience, but with open communication and trust, they can also become an opportunity for you to grow as an individual and a true testament to the strength of your love.
If you’re struggling with feelings of anxiety in your long-term relationships, don’t be afraid to reach out. As a therapist who specializes in anxiety, I strive to provide my clients with the strength and tools they need to become confident in themselves and their abilities.
Remember, embrace this journey together, support each other through the highs and lows, and keep your eyes fixed on the horizon! Together, you can weather this storm and emerge stronger on the other side
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With therapy for anxiety, self esteem, or migraines, I can help you build an arsenal of tools you can use to achieve the life you deserve. Believe me. You got this!
Therapy & Coaching at Essence of Healing Counseling Services
Roberta Alves is a Therapist and Development Coach at Essence of Healing Counseling, in downtown Ft. Lauderdale, FL. She is also a Certified Anxiety Specialist who uses the solution focused and evidence based therapy called cognitive behavioral therapy. Research has shown that cognitive behavioral therapy is proven to be extremely effective in treating anxiety and improving self-esteem. Roberta provides counseling services to her clients who live in Ft. Lauderdale and the surrounding South Florida areas through telehealth counseling via online video and phone sessions. She also provides coaching services to clients throughout the country via online video and phone sessions. If you want to learn proven techniques to overcome stress, improve your self-esteem, and achieve your goals, call (954) 526-4006 to schedule an appointment today.
